Are You an Empath? And what is this Deal About Narcissists?

A few common questions I am often asked are,

“What is an Empath, am I one, and how do I know what my gifts are? How do I stop attracting Narcissists and find true happiness?”.

These are not easy, one size fits all questions to answer. So, I have made this blog to explain the best I could the bigger picture behind the answers, and how these questions are so closely connected.

The Empath

World Changers

There are countless articles and books outlining lists of various qualities which pinpoint what an Empath is, and there are so many different names given for an Empath as well, such as Light Worker, Star Seed, Indigo Child, Blue Ray, etc. The thing is, it’s a lot like religion – you have many different beliefs, all pretty much telling the same story but from diverse perspectives. I feel that the label, Empath, is an excellent way to sum up who these energy-sensitive people are, by explaining a quality trait that each of these distinct labels share. However, it goes so much further than just that.

So just for the sake of those who might have not read one of these great articles, here is a lovely list of gifts and traits these highly energy-sensitive souls share:

Soul Memory – You have a feeling you have been here before, you have had past lives

Healer – The mystical, metaphysical, holistic healing, environmental, animal and human activism, taboo or occult and pagan traditions call out to you. You may even consider yourself a witch or healer.

Psychic Abilities – You are highly intune and have a connection to Source, or the Universe, feeling it’s guiding force behind you. You may possess one or more of the gifts: clairvoyance (seeing), clairsentience (feeling), clairaudience (hearing), claircognizance (knowing), clairalience (smell), clairgustance (taste). The More evolved or intune the Empath is, and the further they go within their healing journey and ascension process, more gifts will surface.

Empathy & Telepathy – the main trait that every single one of these special souls share is the ability to connect and absorb the vibrational frequency of everything around them. It is more than just feeling emotions, but also physical pain, thoughts and even memories. Telepathy is this gift heightened, to where you can tap into another’s thoughts. Edgar Cayce had channeled that in Atlantis, everyone communicated through telepathy.

Synchronicity – You have had many synchronistic experiences, such as repeating number sequences or experiences happening in twos or threes.

‘Depression’ – I put Depression in parenthesis because I really feel that this is another plan by the opposing end to prevent the ascension into the new age from happening. Drug ‘em up and calcify that pineal gland. Make them believe there is something wrong with them, but in reality, there is something very wrong with the World, and that is what makes them so sad. Many Empaths sadly end their lives because they are too sensitive to the darkness that shrouds this World, and the cycles they are meant to surpass can often be extremely heavy and taxing to endure.

Getting Sick Often – Again, another symptom of being an empath is taking in the sensations of others around you. Also, the world has shifted in a very negative direction towards healthcare and the quality of food we eat, as well as the products we use for beauty.

ADHD & Behavioral Issues – There are so many theories out there stating the ADHD is a tall tale sign of being an Indigo Child, or Empath. You vibrate at a very high frequency, can super-focus and multi task, ON THINGS THAT YOU ARE INTERESTED IN. When you are subjected to sitting in a controlled environment that is teaching you something in which is far from the Truth, then you fidget and subconsciously your higher self-shuts it out. I know there are more extreme cases of behavioral issues, or ADHD that make people swear it’s not just some theoretical, new age reason why, but it is also the result of what has been wrong with our educational and structure of society. These are the children baring the cycles of the suppressed mind and false truths taught to the masses by controlled and corrupt establishments which have a more malevolent agenda for humanity.

Living or Visiting the United States of America – Edgar Cayce had also predicted that a majority of indigo Children would be born within the United States of America so to gather in one place to bring the movement needed to usher in the new age.

Stars – You have a connection with the stars, astrology, astronomy, and all the magic within the cosmos. You may even feel that you come from a different planet. ET’s or other planets with life interest you as well.

Feeling Drained or Constantly Fatigue – As an Empath can pick up emotions of others, and things within their environment, they also are rather sensitive to electronics as well, and so their aura is constantly being invaded and manipulated by outside forces if they do not properly defend themselves. This will result in a feeling of being drained, unfocused, and unbalanced.

Seeing Through Others BullSh*t – This is a gift that every empath has, and if they are intune, they can use this as a major defense to those who are unauthentic and ultimately toxic. Many might feel froze, or unable to be themselves around these people, almost as if there is a blockage not allowing free flowing communication to occur. This is a tall tale sign that you need to read a little deeper into the people who makes you feel this way.

Higher Calling – You feel as if you are here for a higher purpose, are special with a mission much like a hero here to save the planet. That is your activation call.

Avoiding Responsibility – Empaths cannot stand to be controlled and often taking responsibility over something, even if is their own health, feelings taxing. Empaths usually do not like routine, or anything that is constricting. This means they have a hard time with managing money, paying bills, sometimes holding down jobs that are in no way connected to their higher purpose, and living a mundane life without ‘color’.

Cannot Stand Cruelty or Suffering Done to Others– The empath has that calling within to heal, nurture and save the planet. So, with that comes the response from the suffering which is in the World today. Many cannot withstand horror movies or TV shows of human injustice, many are vegans or environmental activists, and, many stick up for the underdog and protect the weak, being the voice for those who cannot speak up for themselves.

Social Anxiety – As the empath carries that sometimes pain in the butt gift of absorbing everything in the environment, they often have a difficult time in public places, or being around too many people at once.

Bubble Time/Meditation – Empaths are souls who have lived previous lifetimes as monks, nuns, or spiritual scribes and teachers who spent a great deal in isolation or in meditation. The need for this quietness, and time to decompress the stress of the World’s sorrows as well as to open the flood gates of creativity is highly needed.

Creatively & Intellectually Gifted – Now, I believe anyone can be intelligent, creative, and artistic, and so it is unfair to give this quality to just one label of people. However, I will agree that energy-sensitive empaths are prone to be highly artistic and encompass a gifted intellect that surpasses others greatly.

The Needy Flock Towards You – You may be that one person who has to deal with random people just dumping their whole life stories on you, or the one all your friends vent to. You are a healer, and so it is natural for others to feel at ease and vulnerable around you, considering you to be a safe place to release. Boundaries are needed within this area, as often times an Empath will subject themselves to become pin cushions for others.

Cycles of Abuse, or Toxic Relationships – One thing that I warn many empaths I come across, or read for, is the trap of victimization. Empaths are gentle souls, healers, and peacemakers, and so when a narcissistic, or toxic person has a hold on them, they often do not know how to save themselves or bypass these cycles of meeting the same personality or abusive traits in different people. This is a subject I will speak more on further in the blog.

Paranormal – You have had paranormal or unexplained experiences with spirits or energetic beings from different realms. You might even feel connected to fairies, spirit guides, and may also see the darkness activate in others.

OBE & Astral Travel – A common trait of an Empath as well is Astral Travel. You know those dreams where you feel you’re flying? Or, when you feel as if you fall back into yourself and wake up with a huge jolt? Many unknowingly do it at night, and some can do it through meditation and practice.

Addictions – Empaths often have addictive personalities and succumb easily to mind altering substances that help them escape reality, or to run away from their own pain, wearing a mask of temporary happiness. Sometimes these are ancestral, where addiction runs in the genetic makeup, or it can be a byproduct of dealing with their own pain.

Bad with Money – Empaths have a hard time with holding a lot of value over money. Of course, this isn’t a trait that every single one will possess, as some hold their finances just fine, but for many, money means nothing because the spiritual rewards or simple pleasures from hard work are worth more. Also, oftentimes they are dialed into higher dimensions and are not grounded enough to focus with money – spending more than they make and having issues with holding down a job.

Healing through the Laying of Hands (See also 'Healer') – Do your hands heat up when you hug someone you are trying to comfort, or pray for? Have you felt extreme heat while giving a therapeutic massage? When you intend to heal someone, you can. Often an Empath can tell instantly where someone hurts, by either feeling it themselves, or just having a distinct knowing, and often may also have an urge to place their palm over top of it. If this resonates with you, then I strongly urge you to consider reiki, massage therapy, aura cleansing, or something to do with healing others in a therapeutic, holistic, or spiritual sense.

Edgar Cayce’s Prophecy

The Sleeping Prophet

If you are not familiar with the Sleeping Prophet, then you should definitely take the time to research him and his books, and also don’t forget to give him thanks for influencing this “new age”, and opening the minds of others who had forgotten the magic in the world. It was because of him that Spiritualism became a thing, and people developed an interest in the ‘unknown’, such as Astrology, Divination, Mediums, Akashic Records, healing crystals, and lastly, Atlantis and Ancient Lemuria.

Edgar Cayce had recorded thousands of channeling sessions, in many he had written about a new wave of children, who’s auras were a bright Indigo color, representing the dominance of their Brow or Third Eye Chakra – seeing the World unveiled. Indigo Children also have more active strands of DNA than other humans do, and one of their key missions is activating more of these strands to help the collective whole evolve into this New Age (Age of Aquarius, or Golden Age).  Also, these children were highly gifted with psychic and intellectual powers. Edgar had also channeled that these children were reincarnated souls from Ancient Atlantis whom have already ascended, but chose to come back and help the world in a time of crisis and change.

Okay, Wait… What?

This Sounds Like Some Ancient Aliens Stuff...

I’m going to give you a quick history lesson about humankind’s lineage, so you may understand what I mean by blockages within the genetic makeup of your DNA, and what your soul has been trying to fix for thousands upon thousands of years.

Almost every single culture has a story of some great flood which ‘cleansed’ the earth, and a single Man and his family were put in charge to collect two of each animal so to repopulate the Earth. In other words, Noah’s Arc.

When I first started working with Archangel Metatron, he took me through a blast in the past and showed me how humankind's DNA was violated by other beings from darker realms which wanted to take control, or domination of the Planet. It wasn’t necessarily the “devil” or fallen angels per say, but it was something dark, and through the mixing of races, the genetic makeup of humankind had been altered, basically pushing us back in spiritual evolution and placing a heavy veil over our divinity.

Then comes the flood, and the attempt to start over. However, it didn’t go as planned, obviously. As we humans carry Karmic DNA whereas we must take on the cycles of our ancestors, and as those cycles were not solved in the past, and the easy way out with a flood didn’t work, Indigos get to come down and do the job right. This is why you see so much darkness today, with malicious people whom bring chaos and destruction to others – in other terms: narcissists, sociopaths, psychopaths, etc. That darkness still has access to them through their genetic makeup.

DNA Activation

Are You Ready to Cleanse the World?

DNA Activation is a very complex subject, probably even more so than the subject about Empaths. There are many ways to go about it, but there is very little understanding of this topic all together, and so we are still very much in the dark about it.

It is more than just activating the DNA and suddenly having super-human psychic powers that dramatically change and save lives. You must first cleanse the affected DNA which has the block on the other strands from activating.

The Universe, Source, our infinite creator of existence had saw fit to help us by aligning soul contracts and higher awareness of karmic cycles needed to bypass to clear these blockages.

This new wave of World Shifters that Edgar Cayce had prophesized are changing the World by changing their own lives, and the lives for their future generations. The abuse, addictions, mental or behavioral issues all stem from past wounds that have not been addressed, and so the soul needs to release these to clear the path for a more peaceful and harmonious future.

It seems so simple, and yet near impossible when you consider the fate of our World today...

Not only does this bring the future to a better place, but it also brings about a shift towards a higher consciousness in human evolution.

There are many ways you can go about your healing path in shifting your genetics, and spiritual evolution. More importantly, it’s not a one size fits journey. Just as we are all individuals, this is a unique experience.

Energetic Healing – Tuning or raising your vibrational frequency which will aid in the shedding process of the karmic and genetic blockages by helping you achieve that higher awareness needed to expose and understand them. This can be done through a reiki practitioner who acts as a vessel in channeling light and healing energy to work on you. You can also do this for yourself through working with chakras, and even use gemstones or crystals which also channel the earth and universal healing energy. It’s not like magic where suddenly after a session you are cured – it takes time, and ultimately acts as a catalyst to help you achieve what you must do for yourself.

Kundalini Awakening - This can often be the result of receiving Reiki, or even doing your own Chakra work. Your Kundalini energy sits at the base of your spine within the lower chakras, and as you balance and open each chakra, the energy uncoils, and feels a lot like a snake uncoiling, slithering up your body. When this happens, you dramatically cleanse, clear and activate your DNA as your vibrational frequency peaks and you become more intune as well as aware to your Higher Self and Source energy.

Intuitive Readers or Healers – Sometimes it’s hard to understand or see the cycles that plague our DNA or block our soul’s evolution, and so having someone who can see beyond the veils can translate messages needed to activate your healing journey.

Facing Your Own Sh*t – Yes, that’s right – check yourself. Sometimes it’s simply yourself that is standing in your own way, and that can be from self-sabotaging, emotional patterns, addictions and other things which require us to take self-control and discipline to conquer. These are typically ancestral, or even become coping mechanisms for the Empath who has endured through so much.

Bypassing Cycles – What repeated cycles are you stuck in? What painful experiences keep repeating in your life? The Universe has a funny way of repeating a lesson until it is learned. By using more self-awareness and understanding, you can tune into the method behind the madness, and overcome these experiences, or obstacles.

What is a ‘Narcissist’, and How Exactly Do They Fit into the Empath’s Life?

Opposites Attract, but Boundaries Matter

The Word Narcissist is a word to describe vain, or ego-centric and self-involved people who lack empathy – the strongest gift an Empath has, which makes them opposites. However, it has now become a label, just as indigo child or Empaths to describe something a lot more complex. I have tried to “dumb it down” with this blog post, but cannot without feeling guilty for leaving holes in this Truth I feel connected to.

Here is a list of common traits to help pinpoint who these darker souls are:
(if ANY of these resonate within your relationship, then I strongly urge you to look for a strong support system and get out)

Controlling You – A narcissist will want to control the way you feel, think, act, and perceive them. They will put on a good show to get you in, and once they have you, their mask will slowly fall off as they no longer have to pretend. You feel as if your emotions are not validated, you are always misunderstood, and you have to walk on egg shells when it comes to expressing your unique identity. A narcissist also wants you to be dependent on them, so their control will most likely involve financial abuse. Also, you may not be allowed to have certain friends, who are truly good people for you, because they see through them – they may tell you that they are a disruptive influence to your relationship.

Controlling the Way People See You – The control will not stop with you, or your finances, but also with how others, such as your friends, family, and even coworkers perceive you. Often this is done through spreading rumors, or even treat you different when in the presence of others, making them think your silent screams for help are just in your head. They make others believe they are saving you, or that you are helpless in some way, making them your hero.

Abusive – I touched a little on financial abuse, but it can get a lot more extreme and traumatic from there. A narcissist does not have that strong sense of empathy, remember? They may abuse you, making you feel as if you deserve it, and giving a good cause or valid reason behind their motives for it. Their own pain and anguish is projected onto you, feeding off your helplessness and getting worse in time. Sometimes they might not abuse you directly, but will hurt the things you love, knowing that it might affect you more.

Vengeful/Accountability – A narcissist may not be able to understand the pain they project to others, but they do when they are on the receiving end. They will often play as the victim in situations where they are the culprit, convincing themselves to live in that illusion, focusing only on their own sorrow and feeding their rage.

Self-Entitlement/Selfishness – Often a narcissist will have a self-entitled attitude, and they will step over others just to get the things they desire, not caring about the affect their actions have on others. Their focus is on their own enjoyment, and often when they help someone with something, it typically has ulterior motives that benefit them in the end.
There are so many other qualities I can list, but the main theme I think these all point to it: A toxic person.

Only Does Good Deeds When Others Are Watching - They may appear to be a good person in front of you, but as mentioned in a previous trait above, they do it all for show. This is how they manipulate you into thinking they are good people. You know this to be a fake quality when their mask becomes to fall off after getting to know them better, and you start to notice their resistance to the kindness or generous acts of selflessness they would give others before.

Energetic/Emotional Vampire - a narcissist will feed off your sympathy and play the victim just to pull on your heart strings. You know, those friends who seem to never be in the wrong, while everyone is out to get them, and they just constantly have to vent to you, or work you up to get a reaction, causing you to feel emotionally exhausted and energetically fatigued.

These are also souls whose DNA is largely blocked, and so that darkness has access to their vessel. I know it sounds like this age-old story of Good vs Evil, but, that’s exactly what it is. It also may sound a lot like demonic possession as well, and yes, that is a lot of like what it is, too. However, the word Demon is just another term used to explain something that every single culture around the World identifies with some form of darkness, or a malevolent entity.

Typically, the result of these souls being so engulfed in darkness, is through lifetimes of trauma from the cycles of negative experiences they have endured, and so they have become wholly consumed by it darkness and drifted further from the light in each of their incarnations. This has prevented them from ascending, which keeps them bound to Earth. These souls incarnate as humans through parents whom are within that lowered vibrational frequency, as well as attach themselves or possess those who are also in that same state of consciousness, or are weak willed.

An Empath, or Indigo’s job here is to heal and activate their DNA, and to usher in this new age of higher consciousness. So, how can you know what you need to heal if you don’t experience the ailment? How can you identify a problem in human consciousness if you do not experience what is wrong with it in the first place?

You need the darkness to find the light. Just like in a battle between good and evil previously mentioned – opposing forces colliding together, creating an explosion of change.

I like to consider the narcissist a projector, and the Empath a receiver. The empath receives their lessons and cycles through the narcissist who aids in projecting them. The Empath’s gifts come from their soul’s memory, but also through their experiences in healing themselves. The Narcissist will trigger these wounds to surface, or cycles that keep the Empath blocked.

For example – many who have been persecuted during the inquisition for being pagan in prior lives, or having supernatural gifts will undergo cycles with people who keep them oppressed, undergo an environment of a strict upbringing in reformed religion, as well as endure torture or abuse to trigger the trauma which had suppressed the soul from ‘coming out’ and embracing its Truth, so the wound may finally be healed and the resentment, or PTSD of the soul, released.

Another example, is a common theme I see in a lot of my client readings, where Empaths do not like taking responsibility for their own wounds or healing, and so they pick up broken people to fix, or controlling, overly dominant relationships, to take accountability away from them having to take care of themselves. A lot of empaths tend to be codependent because of the trauma their soul carries, which not be all their own, but from their ancestral lineage as well. You might call it sort of a stockholm syndrome of the soul, where it undergoes these traumas with toxic relationships, because it has become used to the pain. This is a very heavy burden, in which some of the most damaged, but good-hearted energy-sensitive people must carry. The Empaths biggest lesson in this case is owning up to taking responsibility in saving themselves, and taking back their power. Otherwise these do tend to be some of the most heat breaking and soul-killing relationships.

Also, as I had said some of these narcissists are born from darkness, and so they do not have the same light as an Empath, and they crave it, and are drawn to it, like a moth to a flame. If the Empath does not have a strong defense in self, then they can lie victim to these darker encounters as well.

Can they be cured, or their DNA be cleansed and activated?

You can lead a horse to water, but you can’t make it drink.

Yes, and No.

As I had said, some are born from the darkness. However, those who have fallen into the cycles of abuse or trauma, and become consumed by it – ultimately allowing the cycle, or their abusers, to transform them into becoming a product of their pain, do have a chance to heal. It would take reprogramming them completely, and extreme bravery in facing their own darkness, for them to change. It can be done, anything is possible, but it has to be ultimately up to them. Most all, don't get caught up in the game with an energy vampire who feeds off your empathy and selflessness to help them.

Time and time again I see beautiful light workers and healers giving all of themselves to others who just feed off them, and consume their light. When trying to fix broken people, you can often get cut from their jagged edges. The Universe will set up the experiences on their path to help them align onto their healing journey, so if you happen to feel responsible for trying to help someone whom has narcissistic qualities, then it would be wise to do a quick self-check to see if this is just a product of your own shadow work, and them being the projector of your lessons.

How do You Cut Cords with a Narcissist?

The best defense is a good offense

There are many ways you can cut cords from attracting these souls into your life, and many of them are listed above about DNA cleansing and activation. It takes self-work in understanding the cycles within that are attracting these soul contracts, or energy parasites onto your path.

Self-Work/Shadow Work - Facing your demons and overcoming the cycles within which keep you in the repetitious state of learning the lessons presented by the Universe must be learned in order to truly cut cords, and overcome this fatal attraction. It all starts with self. This does not mean it is your fault for your sorrows or traumas, but your responsibility in saving yourself.

Rituals - A ritual helps empower your intentions, and aids in programming or focusing your mind to a different state of consciousness. Its a lot more than just hocus pocus or praying for something to go away, but to help inspire the strength to take action where needed. Rituals, especially ones that are done often, can help program your thought process into alignment with what your intentions are.

Shielding Your Aura - Gemstones, rituals, prayer, visualization - again, there are so many ways you can go about this. Having a strong defense makes the best offense when under spiritual attack, or collaborating your frequency to no longer attract darker or toxic personalities.

Positive Support System - Always keep a close group of friends - even if they are just online because you're an introverted empath who has social anxiety. You need communication with other like-minded souls who lift you up, and call you out when needed. When needing to get away from a toxic relationship, or even be forewarned before entering one, having true friends around can quite possibly save your life, but most definitely your peace of mind.

How Can Empaths Help Change the World?

One small step for man, one giant leap for mankind.

As I had said in the beginning of the blog – when I am asked “How can I find out what my gifts are?” I reply with a question:

“What is your Passion?”

For those who don’t know what their passion is, or are still looking for their higher calling, the best advice I can give you is self-discovery. You have to find yourself, your truth, and then you will open the doorway within that leads you to your passions, and soul gifts.

Not everyone makes a visible impact on the World, or that they can see, but they do create the ripple effect that inspires others to make the changes within themselves as well. As one person becomes more consciously aware, they open the doorway for others to reach that state as well.

Often the best way the Empath can help the World is through their own healing and revolution of self.

Being authentically yourself and embracing your truth is one of the highest callings you can embrace in this lifetime. Your passion is the cure. Your gifts or unique interests and talents are not bestowed upon you for no reason, you are meant to use them, and to serve humanity with them.

Are You Ready for Your Activation?